Women Abuse - No Excuse

If you have been following the links and papers with respect to obsessional stalking behaviour you will have encountered the term Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissistic personality disorder appears to have a strong association with obsessional stalking behaviour, particularly in association with the stalkers attempts to control others from expressing critical comment and bearing witness to abusive and controlling behaviours exhibited by the stalker; using threats and violence to insist that others see them as they wish to be seen rather than as they are, often coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted

Here are some quotes from the wiki article.

"To the extent that people are pathologically narcissistic, they can be controlling, blaming, self-absorbed, intolerant of others’ views, unaware of other’s needs and of the effects of their behavior on others, and insistent that others see them as they wish to be seen."

"People who are overly narcissistic commonly feel rejected, humiliated and threatened when criticised. To protect themselves from these dangers, they often react with disdain, rage, and/or defiance to any slight, real or imagined."

And a quick check list:

• Reacts to criticism with defensive rage to avert shame or humiliation
• Takes advantage of others to achieve own goals
• Has feelings of self-importance
• Exaggerates achievements and talents
• Preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal love
• Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
• Requires constant attention and admiration
• Lacks empathy

We will be exploring this in more detail and detailing possible treatment scenarios in future posts although initial impressions of treatment seem summed up by this commentators observation:

"Narcissists lack a mature conscience and seem to be restrained only by fear of being punished or of damaging their reputations."

"If you are a "fixer", then focus on fixing situations, preferably before they become "situations". Don't for one moment delude yourself that you can fix the narcissist - it simply will not happen. They just simply can't be fixed."